Woman Blocks Her Friend After She Acts Rude and Distant on Family Vacation, Their Friendship is Torn Apart

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    r/TwoHotTakes • 2 days TWO HOT TAKE PopFabulous 1960 AITAH for blocking my "friend" on social media after she ignored me during the family vacation I invited her on?
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    I (23F) planned a 4-day trip to Disneyland with my family. Since I only had 2 days off work and my family was staying for a week, I asked my friend Jane (23F) to join us. She was excited at first, but became distant after buying the tickets, which I thought was due to her new boyfriend. A week before the trip, her mom had emergency surgery and Jane
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    injured her leg. I thought she might cancel and told her it was OK if she did, but she confirmed the night before that she was still coming.
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    During the trip, Jane was constantly on her phone with her boyfriend, she even left the hotel room every night and came back late at night when I was already asleep. She was distant and didn't engage much with me or my family. On the first day at Disney, she left early, saying her leg hurt. She later told us her dad booked
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    her a separate tour around LA and a room at a different hotel, so she wouldn't join us for the second day. We agreed on meeting the next at the bus station to get to the airport.
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    The next day, Jane missed the bus to the airport and texted that she would Uber there. I kept waiting for her at the airport entrance for 4 hours, then I found her at a restaurant but when she saw me she ignored me completely. During our layover, she continued to avoid me. Once we arrived home, she didn't offer me a ride,
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    even though she had said she would.
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    A few days later, I found out Jane lied about her dad booking the tour (amongst other things). She had posted in a Facebook group asking for recommendations. I believe she wanted to explore on her own, but didn't communicate this. I don't think my family made her uncomfortable, as they were respectful and inclusive. A few days later I decided to block her
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    on social media bc I found her behaviour rude towards my family and me. Some friends told me I rushed into blocking her rather than talking to her in the first place. So, AITAH?
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    JustAslCanBeSoCr... 2d ago Yeah, no, that was really rude and weird. I wouldn't waste any more time or energy on this friendship. Blocking is the way to go.
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    Yello_Ismello 2d ago INFO: did she buy her Disney/plane tickets or did you? Maybe she expected you to front everything?
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    joe-lefty500 • 2d ago Save your energy. This one is a user and not a friend.
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    Lucky_Log2212 • 2d ago NTA. Never beg for a relationship. She avoided you so you can permanently avoid her. Everyone should be happy now. And, friends who only take one side are not true friends. Instead of telling you what you did wrong, they should have set
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    up a meeting to get everything out in the open. They did not do that. They came down on you. So, they seem to have chosen a side, without having all of the information. So, they aren't being a good friend to you, just to the other person. Don't let them try and spin
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    it some other way. They didn't ask for a meet, they wanted you to change your position, before knowing what it was.
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    NTA, and you did right by breaking her access to you and your family. She seemed as if she didn't want to be associated, so you obliged her wishes and so she is blocked. She is just embarrassed and gave some lame excuse. Don't fall for it, she is showing what type of person she is and is
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    somehow punishing you, probably because you have successful relationship with a man.
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    Vegetable-Cod-... NTA 2d ago You didnt rush it, you went too slow. The fact that she blatantly ignored you at the air port was incredibly rude, especially after making you wait.
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    I would first ask if the friends know the whole story, including all the ignoring, the lying and such. If they do and they think it's okay that she behaved that way, then I would question if I should remain friends with them too.
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    If she wasn't in the mood or didn't want to go she should have just canceled.
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    PopFabulous1... OP 1d ago Thank you for your all comments. I just wanted to clarify some things here: 1. I did go out of my way to make sure she was comfortable on the trip, my family and I have relatives near Disneyland who can
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    host us, but I insisted on booking a hotel so my friend didn't feel uncomfortable or too much of an outsider. 2. She has been dealing with her mom's health condition for about 2 years and since then she's been on a number of trips and
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    vacations. So I don't attribute her attitude to that. 3. I met her new boyfriend a week prior to the trip, I try not to take things personally but he made some comments with the intention of making me uncomfortable (he told
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    my friend that). So I'm guessing he was making my friend feel guilty for going on vacation and maybe he didn't like me. 4. She does have a long history on ending friendships on really bad terms.
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    5. I'm not justifying my actions here, I'm just really trying to get different perspectives on how to interpret her behavior.

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